Do all long haired men do drugs?
About 15 years later, I entered a church building and the first thing I noticed was a young man with long hair raising his hands, singing, clapping and having a good old time. And this was a regular Sunday night service! First off, I figured he must be on drugs. Secondly, I concluded he was definitely not a Christian. I found out later, he wasn't on drugs and he was definitely a Christian. Or, as he preferred to be called, "a follower of Jesus Christ."
Soon after meeting this "follower of Jesus Christ," 26 years ago now, I became a follower of Jesus Christ. It wasn't long, however, until some other Christians started harassing me about the length of my hair. "Son," they would say as they solemnly looked at my shoulder length locks, "Christians don't wear long hair." What did I do? I got a hair cut. But, I struggled with the close-mindedness and narrow mindedness of Christian then, and have for the past 26 years on this weighty theological issue of hair length.
Seven years ago, I became pastor of a church, where much of the congregation was composed of recovering alcoholics and/or drug addicts. One day, a young man with long hair came up to me and said, "Pastor, can I wear my hair long and be a Christian?" Apparently, he had been attending a church where the pastor had told him that if he was "really a Christian" then he had to get a hair cut. My answer, "Mark, you can grow your hair down to your ass and you will be as much of a Christian, and maybe more, than that pastor."
But, I kept my hair fairly short because of the stigma that society puts on men with long hair. And there was enough stigma associated with our church. There was plenty of talk about that "strange" church that has a clothing bank, food bank, drop-in center and soup kitchen. In reality, we were just doing things that the church should be doing but few of them actually do. Well, the mission that I worked with finally got tired of "that strange bunch we have working with us," and closed our work down. (More on this in later postings.)
Now, I am a "freelance pastor," you might say. I work with a few addicts and am involved as a volunteer prison chaplain. To be more readily accepted at first glance with those I meet and work with, I have started growing my hair long again. It has certainly cut out any possibility of working in most church meeting places, but, so what? I am also able to better identify with the dispossessed and the oppressed because any man wearing long hair today is immediately suspected of being "on drugs." Even today. It didn't end with the 60's.
The Bible verse that some Christians are so fond of quoting to show that "men with long hair can't be Christians," is found in 1 Cor. 11:14. What this verse actually says is that it is "humiliating and degrading to him," that is, for a man to have long hair. And, it is. The stares, whispers and glances you get does bother you. But, it helps me to better identify with those in society who are marginalized and oppressed because of their background, socio-economic status, or mental health. Or appearance. It makes me feel more drawn to those who suffer from addictions, sexual abuse. And the imprisoned, among others.
Not to mention that at my age, of 56, to be able to grow any hair at all is a bonus. So, if you have it, flaunt it?
The long and short of it, however, is that I am not responsible for all the narrow minded, bigoted Christians (and other people) in the world. I'm only responsible for how I act towards them. When I stand before God I won't be responsible for the actions of anybody else. I am only, thank God, responsible for my own actions. And, that's enough to be responsible for in life.
